Guilt is a choice. Nobody else can make you feel that way - you pick it. When it comes to prioritizing yourself, it starts with making the choice to not feel guilty about it. Then decide on your minimums and stick to it.
Prioritizing yourself is a matter of accepting your needs; therefore, you have nothing to feel guilty about. You need to feel good about yourself - that’s an important part of giving yourself to other people. I pick a few things for myself that I do super consistently and don’t worry about the rest. I make these things non-negotiable.
What are the things you need to do to make yourself feel strong and whole? How often do you need to do them?
For me, this looks like:
Keep the commitment to yourself.
You work hard to keep your commitments to everyone else on your calendar, why would you not keep them to yourself? It’s very hard. It takes practice. But if you keep the commitment you don't have to keep resolving it. Just do it.
One way this looks for me: When I leave an appointment, I schedule the next one. And then I prioritize it - I leave it on my calendar and make it happen.
To hear more on this topic, listen to this episode of Scared Confident